Independence is important to individuals of all ages. As a child we are constantly striving for independence, and as an older adult, we strive to keep our independence. Driving an automobile tends to be an indicator of our independence or the lack thereof and therefore, it becomes a sensitive subject for many families.

How do you know when it is time to face this topic?

1. Offer to be a passenger on a ride with your loved one and evaluate the following:

• How many “close calls” or accidents has your loved one experienced?

• Is your loved one having difficulty staying in the lanes?

• Is your loved one having difficulty judging distances?

• Is your loved one driving too slow?

• Is your loved one confused about direction?

• Has your loved one accidently hit the wrong pedal?

• Is your loved one receiving frequent tickets or warnings?

2. One of the most telling questions to ask a caregiver is if you would allow your children or grandchildren to ride in the car that is being driven by their loved one.

In this culture, driving is a symbol of independence therefore, before driving is completely stopped a caregiver may find it helpful to give the loved one alternatives. One alternative can be a family member or friend that the loved one enjoys spending time with may find the time to drive the loved one around while running errands of for a simple drive. The overall goal is to keep the individual with dementia as independent as possible for as long as possible; taking one step at a time.